Yesterday I touched upon making comparisons with autistic children…
But making comparisons isn’t something unique to parents and carers with autistic children.
It’s something all parents do…
In fact I think it’s something all people do on some level.
Think about it…
You’re in the gym working out, when a slimmer, more toned women goes on the machine next to you, you compare yourself to her. I wish Iooked like that.
You’re friend tells you they got a promotion at work and will be getting a raise in her salary, you compare you’re finances to hers. If only I was earning more.
You’re in a restaurant and you see a family with 2 angelic looking children sat nicely at the table eating a healthy with their knife and fork, you compare your parenting to theirs. I wish I could manage my children like that.
Your cousin a about to go travelling and volunteer around Asia, you compare your lifestyle to hers. If only my life was more adventurous.
You see we all make comparisons.
And the thing about doing this is, it makes us feel like crap!
We have tunnel vision and can only see the negatives when we think this way.
So let’s stop!
Easier said than done I know!
But really…
Just because Alfie, your friends autistic son, went to that specialised school and went on that special diet then began talking to his family and became ‘such a social little boy’…
And your child isn’t doing these things yet, doesn’t mean ANYTHING.
It doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.
It doesn’t mean your child will never learn these things.
It doesn’t mean their school is rubbish.
It means that every child is different and making comparisons is pointless.
If you want to help your child reach their full potential, communicate with you and thrive in all areas of their development then listen up…
In January I will be launching an exciting new programme for parents or carers who want my 1 on 1 support. Together we will focus on helping your autistic child progress in their development, become independent and learn new skills.
If you want to be one of the first to hear about it, click the link below and put yourself on the priority notification list.
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Speak with you soon, until then
Live every moment, Love beyond words and make a difference today…
Emma Ottaway
The Ambitious Autism Ambassador
